The One and Only – Questions Pt. 3

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Well, we made it! We’re done with the first book! And, as moderator, I sure have learned that it’s a lot harder to keep up with a schedule than I thought. 🙂 But I’m catching on. We live and we learn, right? On to the final questions!

Notable Quotes
“I decided that maybe I was wrong. Maybe the bonds of friendship were stronger than anything else in the world.” Chapter 43

“I told myself there was nothing to regret. That sometimes you won – and sometimes you came up short.” CHapter 45

Discussion Questions
1. After Shea admits to her dad she’s in love with Coach, is her dad’s reaction a normal one? How do you think a real life dad (like yours!) would react?

2. Unfortunately the stories about Ryan were try. What did you think about the fight between him and Coach? Did you find it odd no one found out about it? Did it surprise you that Ryan fought him?

3. Coach and Shea seemed to be pretty careless on Lucy’s couch the night they were caught. Do you think they secretly wanted to get caught?

4. Coach admits to a bit of a cover up with the accusation of rape against Ryan from his then girlfriend. Coach said he never believed her, but do you think he’s just telling himself that? Would this confession change your mind about your significant other?

5. Before it ended, what did you think Shea was going to do with her life after quitting her job? Move to NYC? Get over Coach? Stay in Walker?

Overall, how did you like the book? What would you rate it out of 5 stars? What did you like about it? What did you not like about it?

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  1. Mali Trueblood July 24, 2014

    1. I think Shea’s father’s reaction is incredibly abnormal. I don’t even want to think about how my dad would react! However, Shea and her father had a strange relationship as she grew up, and I think he’s trying to make up for it by supporting her newfound relationship.

    2. Ugh. I was SO behind the Shea/Ryan relationship, I hated how it turned out. I found myself almost rooting for Ryan (pre-fight) because I just didn’t want Shea to end up with Coach. Obviously it’s unhealthy to root for an abusive relationship, but I couldn’t get on board with any relationship in the book. I wanted to think that Coach’s fight with Ryan was as a protective father figure, but we all know it wasn’t, and it didn’t surprise me. It’s probably for the best that nobody found out, and I really don’t think it’s all that strange.

    3. I’m sure there’s a part of them that wanted to get caught because they didn’t want to have to hide it, but they obviously regretted it when they got caught. Shea even eventually told Lucy she’d choose their friendship over the relationship. I was really hoping Lucy would stick to that… but she didn’t, and finally offered her approval. Why, I’ll never know. I would NOT EVER be okay with that if I were in her shoes.

    4. I think Coach tries to stay out of the drama as the head coach, and in doing so, he often turns a blind eye to the wrongdoings around him. He doesn’t want to have to put up with the consequences of his player’s actions, so he ignores them. Did he really think she was lying? Maybe, but that gave him no right to ignore what she had confided in him. If my significant other knew about a rape and did not address it, I’d be furious. If you see or hear something, say something. Rape victims so often cannot stick up for themselves, and when they confide in someone else, it is that person’s responsibility to do all they can to make things right.

    5. I really, really wanted Shea to move to NYC AND get over Coach. I think part of Shea’s infatuation with Coach has to do with her daddy issues and her attachment to Walker football. Should she move to NYC, she’d be able to develop a relationship (of the platonic variety) with her own father and see what the world outside of Walker has to offer (perhaps an appropriately-aged boyfriend and a great writing gig?).

    I can’t give this book 5 stars, simply because of my distaste for the Shea/Coach relationship and the beat down Giffin gave Ryan’s character. However, I can appreciate that it didn’t turn out exactly as I expected/wanted it to, as so many books do. Overall, I wouldn’t necessarily recommend it.

    • July 28, 2014

      I agree with so much of what you just said! I wanted Shea to move to NYC and build a relationship with her dad and it was almost like she was going to! Emily Giffin made it seem like she was going to build a relationship between her and her stepsister even, so I was disappointed when nothing came of that.

  2. Hannah Larson July 25, 2014

    1. I can’t even imagine how my dad would react if I told him I was in love with one of his/my mom’s friends. That is too disturbing to even think about. I think it’s normal for a father to want his daughter to follow her heart, but I think most men would have a lot more questions if their daughter confessed her love for a man that helped raise her.

    2. It’s hard to pick which one of Shea’s relationship was worse. Ryan was abusive, but Coach was an inappropriate love interest as well. I think it’s absolutely absurd that no one found out about the fight. I can understand why none of the three of them would go public with the story, but she lives in an apartment building, people would call the police for a domestic disturbance. And how would Ryan explain away any physical marks? In this day and age, it seems nearly impossible to hide a fight that took place between the biggest NFL star and the biggest college football coach. That’s like Tom Brady and Nick Saban getting into it. C’mon, that would be front page news.

    3. Of course they did. If they didn’t want to get caught, they wouldn’t have even touched in Lucy’s house. But it seems like Giffin just created a lot of the conflict to move the story along or for simple shock value.

    4. Yeah, I would never be able to see that person the same way again if he came to me and confessed that when he was in a position of power, he did absolutely nothing to help a young woman who came to him with those accusations. And especially if he justified it by her reputation or her clothes…that’s just not okay. Rape is still rape no matter who it happens to and people in a position like that have a responsibility to help victims. And if he justified it over a football game, that’s even worse.

    5. Since the book summary on the inside cover implied that Shea would break out of her comfort zone and the place where she’s spent her entire life, I was absolutely hoping that SOMETHING would change for her, but in the end, nothing did. Absolutely nothing did.

    I would probably give this book 1 star. It’s been a while since I finished it, but I honestly can’t think of one redeeming quality from it. It seems like very little work was put into it and Giffin resorted to stereotypical plot twists to further the story and just worked off convenience. I honestly wouldn’t recommend this book to anyone and I’m just beyond disappointed in it. I really wanted to like it because I enjoyed her other books, but this one was just awful.

    • July 28, 2014

      I would definitely agree with your number 5 answer. I went into this thinking it would be a story I could relate to about growing up, learning about life, etc. But I didn’t think it was any of that!

  3. Lindsay July 26, 2014

    I hope it’s OK, but I’m going to bypass the questions and just share my thoughts as a whole. I tried really hard to like this book. Usually I can appreciate some aspect of a story, even if it’s not exactly “up my alley.” But I just wasn’t able to get behind this one. The characters were undeveloped, one-sided, and completely un-relatable. The romances were inappropriate and the plot lines didn’t connect to one other.

    But more than anything, I was frustrated by Shea. The description of the book led me to believe that this would be some sort of coming-of-age tale about her leaving home, or finding herself, or growing in some way. I think that’s why I wanted to root for Ryan so much. Her relationship with Coach, on top of being inappropriate for their age and relationship to Lucy, represents an absolutely unchanging lifestyle. Shea will never leave, never experience life outside of football, or expand her understanding of the world in any way. The author just gave her a free-pass to live life in the little bubble of comfort and ignorance that she passively created for herself. That doesn’t happen – nor should anyone want it to.

    • July 28, 2014

      Totally agree!! I felt like I learned nothing about life from the story, whereas I thought it was going to be a story about stepping outside what you would normally do and then your life will be wonderful and happy. I don’t think Shea ends up happy with Coach… there’s definitely not going to be a sequel.

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